It was just a week ago I got word that one of my closest friends had died quite suddenly and most unexpectedly. A few days earlier we'd spent an hour on the phone talking about whatever occurred to us as the clouds blew past our separate windows on our shared planet. There were never planned times for talking but every so often it would occur to one or the other of us that it would be a fine time to hear the other's voice. Our conversations, Inger's and mine, were more like duets of love, laughter and shared impressions of whatever was occurring in that moment or something we'd seen or noticed previously suddenly remembered.
When I first met her in Montreal she was a master weaver from Sweden. Years later she had become a Sufi living in Philadelphia teaching peace and loving kindness. More than that it's almost impossible to describe the 40 years we shared.
Yes, I've mourned her absence this past week and will for a long time to come. Here on Earth Inger was the most gracious and beautiful person I've ever known but, all in all and all things considered, there was no one more prepared to step away at a moment's notice. I will love her always.
May the long time sun shine upon you
All love surround you
And the pure light within you
Guide you all the way on. *
from A Very Cellular Song by the Incredible String Band
addendum November 7th: I received this beautiful memorial from Inger's husband this morning and felt it should be added to the post:
From Qadir Bibi's husband, Rick Asma'el:
Her leaving was a loss for everyone who knew her. It has been almost 3 weeks since she left, and not a day goes by that I am not sobbing at the fact that never again in this life will I be able to hear her voice and touch her hand and be awed by the gentle light-love upon her face and in her heart.
But she loves God and even in the last hour of her life, she was urging me to trust in Him more than in the doctors who worked so hard to help her. She taught me Love, taught me to trust it and to give it unhesitatingly and fearlessly. Our Sheikh, Bawa Muhaiyaddeen, is the light of our hearts and Souls; Qadir Bibi's love within my heart is now inseparable from God's love and wisdom.
She has not gone from my life, but has entered another room in my heart; just as she has entered another room in her Soul-life. My prayer for her is that her intention for surrender to God is accepted and that she becomes comnplete Divine Light, then returns to all our hearts and own love.
I mourn her passing, I miss her every moment, but I am immensely grateful to have had 18 years to love her and to be loved by her.
She would not have us grieve. What she would say is, "Do not miss me, but love each other as God loves you." She would say it humbly and mean it and this is her beauty.